But what makes someone charismatic? Why do some people manage to capture our attention with apparent ease, while others struggle to stand out from the crowd?
According to bestselling author Vanessa Van Edwards, the answer lies in the hidden language of signals – the tiny nonverbal signals we send to others during every interaction.
In today's episode of Impact Theory, Vanessa explores the powerful impact that even the most subtle signals can have on others.
Not only that, but she also shares some powerful techniques for improving our awareness of cues and how to use them to our advantage – proving once and for all that charisma isn't something you're born with, it's something that can be developed with practice. .
If you want to dig even deeper into what is discussed in today's episode, be sure to check out Vanessa's latest book, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication by clicking here: https://amzn .to/3h2Eg4p
SHOW NOTES:
00:00 Presentation
01:08 What is charisma and how do you develop it?
09:19 Why modern communication habits cause burnout
12:37 How to control your signals in the digital landscape
17:16 Why touch is such a powerful signal
24:51 How to spot a liar
26:45 Teaching children to read clues
30:59 Respond to social signals in real time
37:27 The power of oxytocin in communication
40:20 Why is it so important to understand the signals
44:23 Reading clues with tone of voice
48:20 The best way to read a poker player
53:06 The quickest way to avoid bullshit and get to know people
QUOTES:
“When we add warmth and competence – so likable, friendly, compassionate, trustworthy, more capable, powerful and awesome – it’s the happy medium.” [02:30]
“As humans, we meet another human for the first time, the very first question we ask about them is: “Can I trust you?” …the next question we answer – and it is the following question: "Can I count on you?" » » [04:09]
“I think assertiveness is actually like a hidden trait that everyone should learn. Because being socially assertive means you put your needs first, but you're polite about it. [16:05]
“I would prefer that you be aware of the signals that are being sent to you to know: 'I want this or I don't want' because they are so powerful that if someone has bad intentions, it can still generate trust . [41:01]
"I think it's something that's underappreciated and we don't talk about it enough, but our voice reveals a lot of our personality and our mental state." [43:10]
“I think people who doubt their ideas, and they doubt themselves, it leaks into their clues.” [47:35]
“Our subconscious is this incredible machine for reading signals. And so it's constantly trying to tell your gut, “Look, that wasn't good. We should be nervous” or “This person is great.” He is constantly trying to talk to us, you just have to listen to him. [51:37]
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